You probably feel like you know your future spouse pretty well. You’ve probably had long talks about how you envision your future, but you may not have talked very much about how you’d get to that future. There are several things that might be difficult to discuss, and you may not even realize you need to discuss these issues.  Here are a few subjects to discuss before marriage, which will give you both a better picture of your expectations from one another after you’ve walked down the aisle.

1. Children

If you two haven’t discussed the subject of kids, it’s much better to have that conversation before marriage to save yourself a lot of potential unhappiness.  Discussing whether or not you want to have children (as well as when, and how many) is a good place to start, but you should also discuss how you envision raising your children and where you stand on major issues of child rearing, including discipline.

You don’t have to agree on every issue, but if there are major disagreements, work them out before you walk down the aisle. Don’t depend on swaying your partner to your point of view; this is a good way to create resentment and hostility between you. Work it out before you say your vows.