No matter how hard everyone tries, when you’re planning a wedding, there’s always room for conflict. Your parents may have specific ideas about your wedding, or you may find that people you were depending on aren’t meeting your expectations. There may be differing ideas between you and your future spouse about how you each want the wedding to be handled. There are lots of opportunities for conflict when you’re planning a wedding, but that also means there are plenty of opportunities to learn the value of meeting in the middle.
1. Those Last-Minute Things
You’ve been planning your wedding for months and have everything just nearly completed. You can finally see the light at the end of the wedding planning tunnel. Then, your sister calls and asks you to reconfigure the seating chart that you spent months getting exactly right because she’s got a new boyfriend and she just has to bring him. Maybe your great-aunt has been meaning to tell you that you’ve simply got to change your venue to the family church. Whatever the case, there are going to be last-minutes requests to change your plans. This is a golden opportunity to practice meeting in the middle, but it’s important to remember that ultimately, these plans are about your wedding and your wishes should be the most important consideration for any plan changes. When it comes to unreasonable requests or things you just can’t budge on, it’s important for both of you to stand together in a united front and handle turning down those requests with grace and tact. If it’s your fiancé who is requesting a change, you both need to sit down privately and discuss some options for meeting in the middle, and then agree on a compromise.