what brides must tell their bridesmaids

What Brides MUST Tell Their Bridesmaids


Even if each of your bridesmaids has performed those duties before, and even in the event you’ve been a bridesmaid, you might still find yourself wondering what to tell your bridesmaids as your big day approaches. Your bridesmaids are probably waiting for you to tell them what you need them to do and may be resisting the urge to send you a full-on questionnaire by text message. Instead of getting frustrated and questioning your ‘maids as to why they aren’t helping, tell them exactly what you need from them; avoid tons of bewildered texts and emails.

1. Frequently Asked Questions

Keep your inbox and text alerts under control by creating a bridesmaid FAQ. This is a great task for your maid of honor and will help your bridesmaids know what to expect on your big day.


2. Loop Them In

Create an itinerary for your wedding day.Tell bridesmaids exactly what time they should arrive, finish dressing, and when they’ll need to be available for pictures and other duties.This gives everyone a timeline and an event schedule; your bridesmaids will know when and where they should be without having to ask about each part of the day.


3. Mingling With The Plus One

Your bridesmaids might have elected to take you up on your offer of inviting a date.  If so, tell your bridesmaids when they might reasonably expect to be free of their duties and able to spend some time with their dates. Make it clear that your plus-one allowance doesn’t include your bridesmaids bringing their boyfriends to hang out in the bridal room.  After all, you don’t want them eating your snacks and bringing their guy vibes into your pre-wedding preparations.


3. Fill Them In on Food

Tell bridesmaids whether food or snacks will be provided for them throughout your big day, and whether there are nearby places to snag something to eat. If your wedding events will last for a large part of the day, it’s good etiquette to provide something for your bridesmaids to eat. Fruit, meat and cheese trays are great offerings, along with flavored or plain water or other drinks.


4. Your Designated Assistant

Instead of checking email and updating your Facebook status, be involved with what’s going on around you. Tell bridesmaids to call your designated assistant for any last-minute questions.Your big day deserves your attention; your phone will still be there once it’s all said and done.

5. A Few Final Things

Your bridesmaids will need to know a lot of information about your wedding day.  They’ll need to know whether to bring a change of clothing or extra shoes, how much time you’ll need them and about a million other details. Do yourself a favor and answer as many of their questions as you can before your wedding day arrives.