So, you’ve got a great boyfriend who’s just proposed to you and there are stars in your eyes and a song in your heart…and alarm bells ringing in the back of your mind? If you’ve got a brand new fiance, red flags are extremely important and can help you avoid a lot of drawn-out heartache and despair. Here are some red flags you should pay attention to, no matter what kind of relationship you’re in.
1. Moving Too Fast
If you’re contemplating marriage and you haven’t known each other very long, you might do well to take a step back and assess things before you proceed. Sometimes, these fiance red flags pop up in the very beginning of a relationship. However, over the span of a few weeks or months, you grew closer to him and disregarded it as nerves. Now, as you’re considering becoming his wife, you’ve got to think about why he might have popped the question so quickly. Perhaps he’s one of those guys who’s afraid he’ll never really be able to commit and is using you as a test run, or maybe he’s just one of those who gets very attached, very easily, and far too quickly. Whatever the reason, it’s probably not a great situation for you.
2. Keeping You Hidden
If you haven’t met his family and friends, it might be time to start paying attention to your intuitions about your future fiance. Red flags often pop up for women who feel as though they are being hidden from the other important people in their boyfriend’s life. He may have a really good reason for not introducing you; but if you can’t get a straight answer out of him, or if he seems evasive about it, it might be time to pay attention to that warning bell in your head.
3. Late-Night Leaving
You might be hearing alarm bells if your guy never ends up staying the night with you. If you two are being intimate and he insists on getting up and leaving after doing the deed, he may have issues with real intimacy or could be hiding something important from you. There’s a point in an intimate relationship where it’s just natural to stay the night together; if this isn’t happening, it could be one of the larger relationship red flags you’d do well to heed.
4. Being Rude To Others
If he’s berating others, being rude and is basically a jerk to everyone else, you’d better take note; that’s probably you in a year or two! This is especially true if he acts like a jerk to people who serve him (think waiters, cashiers, etc). If he can’t stop snapping at those in service positions, he’s probably not an overall nice person and you might want to think twice about walking down the aisle with him.