How To Handle Feuding Family At The Wedding


It can be extremely difficult, not to mention irritating, to deal with problematic family members during your wedding and reception. If you’ve got some family members that won’t get along with another family at the wedding, it’s important to keep them as far apart as possible. This will help reduce the chances of any problems arising during your big day. If there’s likely to be a lot of family drama on your wedding day, here are some tips on dealing with it.


1. Confront Them

By taking matters into your own hands and speaking to the parties before the wedding, you can help defuse any potential situations and put your family members on alert that their nonsense will not be tolerated.  Do this in the nicest, but firmest, possible way. This is your day and it’s not about their petty squabbles. Let them know that you don’t want your wedding ruined with their problems.


2. Planned Seating

If you’re going to have family at the wedding that can’t stand other parts of the family, seat them far away from each other, both at the wedding and during the reception. You don’t want two feuding factions pitching dinner rolls at each other, even though the rest of your guests might find it extremely entertaining.


3. It Can’t Be Forced

If you’re going to have some family at the wedding that simply despises another part of the family at the wedding, you’re not going to be able to force them to be amiable to each other. They’re not going to suddenly get along just because they’ve had a bit of wine on a happy occasion like your wedding. In fact, alcohol is the last thing they need, especially if they’ll be in close proximity to one another.


4. Delegate Duties Equally

For example, if you’ve got a father and a step-father who don’t exactly enjoy each other’s company, try dividing the wedding duties equally between them. This means it could be that your father walks you down the aisle, while you dance the traditional father-daughter dance with your step-father. This sort of arrangement can help your family get along and avoid creating additional tension or having someone feel left out.


5. Remain Calm & Get Married

In the run-up to your big day, you’re going to have a lot on your mind. Feuding family members should be one of the last things you have to be concerned with; that is, unfortunately, not the way these things typically work out. If you ignore the problems engendered by various factions of a family at the wedding, you’re likely going to see some sort of huge family drama taking up space on your wedding day. If it comes down to it, your feuding family members don’t have to be there. If they can’t behave, don’t be afraid to ask them to leave.