Intimate Wedding - Why Smaller Is Better

Intimate Wedding – Why Smaller Is Better


When it comes to weddings, couples can agree on one important aspect, size does matter! A small wedding can be more personal and practical. At an intimate wedding, the bride and groom can spend more time with each guest and the event has a more cozy feel. Guests can take the time to get to know each other on a more personal level and feel less intimidated by formalities. Below, we discuss the advantages of a small wedding with a more personal, intimate vibe.

1. Smaller Budget

When opting for a small wedding, it is definitely possible to keep to a smaller budget. You may agree that it is both more intimate and cost-effective to have a four-course meal for 50 of your closest friends and family, rather than cocktails and cake for a group of 250 people whom you might not even recognize. You can have more elegant place settings and that elaborate centerpiece you always wanted. The possibilities are limitless as you can now focus on quality rather than quantity.

2. Pamper Your Guests

With a smaller guest list for your intimate wedding, you have more freedom to treat your guests with style. You can plan that destination wedding or have that more secluded venue such as a private beach or secluded park. You can rent out that quaint little bed-and-breakfast for the weekend or treat your guests to a fabulous resort stay at a four-star hotel. You can even provide transportation for your guests for the day, such as a limousine, trolley, or horse-drawn carriage.

Some couples even chose to have a more elaborate rehearsal dinner, perhaps at your favorite vineyard, where guests are treated to a wine-tasting. You may want to make elaborate gift baskets for your guests with items such as fancy toiletries and monogrammed towels and robes. Have a bottle of champagne and a fruit basket or a fancy box of chocolates awaiting each guest as they arrive. Go all out and spoil your guests so they will always remember your wedding.

3. Attention To Details

In planning a small wedding, you may decide not to hire a wedding planner. This, however, puts all responsibility on you. Smaller does not always mean simpler. With a more intimate setting, your guests will notice every detail so it is crucial that you extra attention. While 150 guests might not notice a small oversight,  a small crowd of 50 will pick up on even the tiniest mishap.

4. The Guest List

Here comes the tricky part: limiting the guest list to only the essentials. Do you really have to invite your mother’s Zumba instructor or your father in law’s barber? With a more intimate wedding, you want to have familiar faces, not a sea of guests with whom you are relatively unfamiliar. You want your wedding to be a joyous occasion shared with those you hold most near and dear to your heart. The guests should include those who want to be a part of your life, not just your wedding.

BONUS: With a small wedding and guest list, you have many more venue options. You can book that smaller vineyard, the candlelight restaurant, the ritzy private yacht club, or that small, intimate cruise for 50. You can opt for a smaller, cozy backyard wedding or chose a beach, rustic ranch or wooded park for a more secluded feel, the options are endless!

Be prepared for the backlash from family members as you tell them that you are cutting your list to the “must-haves.” This may also mean having an uncomfortable, yet necessary, conversation with friends and co-workers, explaining that you want to keep your wedding a private and intimate affair. You can also feel free to keep it an adult-only affair and politely tell your guests that children are not included in the invite. No matter what you do, someone somewhere will somehow be offended, but this is inevitable with any wedding. Just remember that it is your day so have it your way! Hurt feelings will eventually fade away and those who truly love you will understand.

5. Have An After Party

If you are really feeling guilty about cutting your guest list, you can always plan a larger, separate celebration when you return from your honeymoon, or even on your first anniversary. You can even make it a housewarming party when you are ready to move into your new home. All of this, of course, will incur extra expenses, so be prepared for additional costs as well as planning another big event.

Another option is to have a small wedding for those closest to your heart and then have a bigger wedding reception where you invite a larger crowd. Again, this will call for an increased budget and is entirely up to you.

6. Get Everyone Involved

With an intimate wedding, there is an increased chance for everyone to participate in some manner. Each guest can read a line of a poem, prayer or special reading. Your guests can circle around you as you recite your vows to make it a more memorable occasion. You can seat everyone at one long table at the reception to make it cozier and invite. The guests can each give a small toast or you can have them each make a personalized page in your guestbook by passing out paper and art supplies. Do whatever you think will make it a more intimate event.

7. Have That Destination Wedding You Always Wanted

A with a bigger budget will allow you to fly off to the Bahamas or that chateau in France. You are now able to treat your guests to a long weekend filled with group festivities such as fishing, skiing, surfing, wine tasting, scuba diving, or a beach bonfire. This gives everyone a chance to relax, unwind, and get to know each other in an exotic location.

Now that we have given you some insight, why not go ahead and plan a smaller, more intimate wedding and have an affair to remember!
It can be a little intoxicating to think of having a huge wedding with hundreds of guests. Having everyone you know celebrate your wedding day with you may seem like a dream come true, but huge weddings can be a nightmare if you’re not prepared for them. There are lots of reasons that you might want a big wedding, but there are just as many great reasons to plan a small, intimate wedding instead.

1. Lower Cost

Quite simply, big weddings cost big bucks. Smaller weddings don’t have nearly the same price tag as do larger ones. Everything, from invitations to food and beyond is less expensive when you’re buying for fifteen guests instead of fifty. This means that, if you plan a more intimate wedding, you can afford higher-quality vendors, splurge a little more on your honeymoon or put the savings into a down payment on your own home. Keep in mind that some venues and vendors have minimum requirements that could cost you, even if your guest list isn’t that large.

2. Specialized Venue Options

An intimate wedding might be just the thing if you’ve got your eye on a very unique or out-of-the-way venue. A smaller crowd means more places are large enough to handle your event; even venues such as small vineyards or local art galleries can be transformed into a gorgeous setting for your ceremony.

3. Making Short Work Of The Guest List

Another beneficial aspect of having an intimate wedding is that, by definition, the guest list must be kept relatively small. This means you don’t need to invite anyone who is not very close to you or your fiance; and your great-aunt, whom you haven’t seen in twenty years, cannot be offended at not being invited. One of the big problems with large weddings is finding a good cut-off for the guest list; an intimate wedding precludes this problem.

4. Simplified Wedding Planning

Smaller weddings are easier to plan than larger ones. It is much easier to make plans for a small group of people than for larger groups. Invitations won’t require three weeks of addressing, and the seating chart and menu won’t be as much of a nightmare, either.

5. Reduced Wedding Party

With a smaller wedding, your bridal party doesn’t need to be very large unless you just want it to be. An intimate wedding means that you can stick with just a few bridesmaids and groomsmen and choose your very closest friends or siblings without hurting anyone’s feelings, because “We’re just having an intimate wedding; the bridal party is going to be really small.”

6. Reduced Pressure

With a smaller wedding, there are far fewer chances for your wedding day to go off the rails. It’s a smaller affair that doesn’t require intricate, excessive planning. An intimate wedding day can be much more enjoyable and less pressured than a larger wedding.