In order to join the ranks of happy couples who have been successful in their marriages, there are a few essential habits you and your future spouse need to establish. Being happy together doesn’t just magically happen. It takes hard work, dedication, and perseverance. Here are some essential habits of happy couples you need to make sure you’re paying attention to so that you and your future spouse can build a strong, resilient marriage.
1. Take Time To Connect
Couples who aren’t making an effort to spend any quality time together are quickly going to become distanced from one another. It can be easy to give in to all the pressures of day-to-day life and stop spending time together but beware of letting separation become a habit. Instead, build a habit of making time for one another. Focus on being together and enjoying each other’s company on a regular basis, even if you have to put it on your schedule.
2. Interpreting “I Love You”
Everyone has different values when it comes to behaviors that make them feel loved. Happy couples understand when their partner is saying “I love you” by doing some small chore or performing some other small act. A good way to find out how your honey’s trying to say “I love you” is to ask them what you’ve done for them that made them feel the most loved and appreciated. Their answer may surprise you, but it will give you a good insight into how they might try to show their love for you. These little acts of love are collectively the “love language” your partner is speaking. When you understand what they’re saying, a whole new depth of appreciation for your partner could open up for you.
3. Share A Hug (or Two)
Make it a point to share at least two hugs with your partner every day. Happy couples practice full-body-contact hugs lasting at least twenty seconds a few times a day. The length of your hugs is as important as really holding one another; after twenty seconds, your brain starts to produce oxytocin, a hormone that promotes bonding, commonly called the cuddle hormone. This hormone gives you the feeling that everything is right in both your relationship and your life. Happy couples give each other boosts of this hormone throughout the day, helping each other feel happy and secure.
4. Practice Actively Listening
If you’re paying attention when your partner is talking, they’ll know. Conversely, they’ll also know if you’re distracted. Practice being a good listener by actively listening to your partner when they’re speaking, no matter the subject. Whether they’re talking about their day, how they’re feeling or even something they’ve been dealing with, it’s important to pay attention to them, not your phone or computer or anything else.
5. Working For Happiness
Happy couples tend to appreciate and pay attention to one another. Good relationships demand attention, respect, hard work and lots of love.