Have you and your fiancé decided to write your own wedding vows? Are you unsure of how to get started? The following article will discuss how to write wedding vows. As well, we will provide you with examples of different types of wedding vows.
What are wedding vows?
They are a lifetime pledge to commit your heart and your life fully to your partner. You can use traditional vows or compose your own and speak from the heart.
Who says vows first – man or woman?
Traditionally, the groom will say his vows first. But the bride can go first or both can say the vows in unison. The order is not as important as the spoken vow itself. However, it is important to decide whom will go first before the ceremony, to avoid any awkwardness.
How Long Should Wedding Vows Be?
That is a very good question. Of course, you want to be able to express your love for your partner and you could probably go on for hours. However, it is wise to keep your vows to around two minutes max.
The wedding ceremony itself will probably run around thirty minutes including the blessing, the ring ceremony, etc. So both you and your partner should take about 2 minutes each for your vows to keep with the pace of the ceremony. Remember, you will have the rest of your lives together to express your love.
Wedding Vows Outline
When composing your wedding vows, the first thing to remember is that you should speak from the heart. However, trying to put this on paper might be challenging for some. Following is a guide for wedding vow structure to you overcome your fears and doubts. Keep in mind that this is a guide and you can alter it to make it more personal.
- Take a look back at your relationship
You can start with words that capture the beautiful memories of your relationship.
Example: “I know this is true because the moment you walked up to me on the beach that day, you were the most beautiful thing I had ever seen!”
- Share sentimental qualities
Express the good qualities you always see in your partner.
Example: “There are too many qualities to mention. You are extremely thoughtful,with you, every day is special. You keep me on my toes with your happy-go-lucky attitude.”
- “I love you because…”
Express the reasons why you love your partner.
Example: “I love you because you make me laugh even when I’m sad. You don’t dare leave me even when I’m mad.”
- Make a few promises
In conclusion, recite your promises to your partner.
Example: “I, Brian, take you, Caitlin, to be my wife. “To love forever, as long as I have breath. To be yours as long as we shall live.”
How To Write Wedding Vows: Tips
Writing your own vows can be daunting, but is something that you will remember forever. It will be one of the most special and personal parts of your wedding ceremony. Do not be afraid to ask for help or share your vows with a friend for their advice.
Following are some tips for writing vows:
- Early preparation is the key: You don’t want to wait until the night before your wedding to write your vows. Start as soon as possible as this will give you plenty of time to prepare. As well, it will ease your anxiety.
- Make a list: Start by making a list of the key points you want to include in your wedding vows. You don’t have to actually start writing them yet. Just jot down some phrases or thoughts that come to mind. Make an outline if it helps.
- Look for inspiration: Listen to love songs, watch romantic movies, read poetry and literature. Search for examples online. Feel free to use any of our examples in your wedding vows.
- Practice: You don’t want your vows to sound scripted, you want to speak freely from the heart, but you should have at least one dry run before the big day. Practice your vows in front of a mirror, record yourself and practice in front of a friend.
How To Start Wedding Vows
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If you are still unsure how to start wedding vows, remember that you are speaking to the person with whom you are spending the rest of your life. Sure, your friends and family will hear you exchange your vows. But they are really only for you and your fiancé. Start off by telling them how much they mean to you. If you are both enjoy humor, you can start off with a joke, or include a funny story of you as a couple. Keep it personal and to the point.
Sara, we have known each other since we were toddlers. Our parents used to joke about us getting married, but we both thought they were crazy. Then one day, in our teens, I fell in love with you. And I knew at that moment that they were right.
Words Ending In Vow
Still, unsure of what you want to say in your vows to make them stand out? You could always include words ending in a vow. “I make this my solemn vow” “Today I pledge my love to you in this sacred vow.” This will help give you some inspiration to use as a starting point.
Connor, I today I pledge my love eternal. I will love you every second of every day. My every thought shall be of you and our life together. I will love you until the day I die. Let this be my solemn vow!
Ways To Personalize Wedding Vows
Personalizing wedding vows is perhaps one of the best ways to make your vows memorable. You don’t just want to ramble on endlessly or sound as though you are reciting a rehearsed speech. Again, the key to writing your own wedding vows is to speak from your heart.
Following are some ways you can personalize your wedding vows. Don’t be afraid to be happy if you are a hopeless romantic. But we have also included some examples of non-sappy wedding vows quotes for him.
- Use humor: Start off with a funny story from your relationship, maybe about how you met. Again, you don’t want to embarrass your partner so if you are not sure whether they want you to share a certain story, you should ask them first.
- Use song lyrics: Do the two of you have a certain song that symbolizes your relationship? You can quote a line or two from that song in your vows and explain the significance of the lyrics.
- Use movie (or television) quotes: Are you both a fan of romantic movies? Do you have a favorite movie quote that sums up your relationship or is meaningful to you as a couple? Incorporate this into your vows. If you can’t think of a movie, you can quote a line from your favorite television show as a couple.
- Use literature: Are either of you poetry buffs? Quote a few lines from your favorite love poem. Or recite a passage from your favorite novel. Just make sure that is the line that your partner will understand.
If you are still stuck, you can search for vow quotes online, or paraphrase one of the examples we have provided in this article for inspiration.
I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who’s ever lived: I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.
(Noah, The Notebook, Nicholas Sparks)
Wedding Vows Template
Look at this wedding vows template free as a simple guideline, not as rules set in stone.
1. What marriage means to you
Think about what marriage means to you, the reason you have chosen to be with this person, and put it in words. You can include your favorite line from a song, poem or book.
2. Reference your relationship
Look back on your relationship and the important moments and milestones that you had together. Perhaps the first time you met, your first kiss or first fight. Or even the moment you knew that your partner was the one. Incorporate this in your vows.
3. Be sentimental
This is where you really get in touch with your feelings. Talk about the great qualities of your partner that bring out the best in you, and how this matches with your qualities. Compliment your partner like never before.
4. “I Love You Because…”
This is a great phrase to start this part of your vows with. Here you can indicate all of the reasons you love your partner. All the reasons you have chosen to spend forever with them.
5. Make the Promises
Whether it’s serious, funny, or sentimental. You know the promises you are making to your partner. End your vows by reciting these promises and promising that they will be forever.
Traditional Wedding Vow Template
If you still need some help writing wedding vows you can always use traditional wedding vows as a starting point. Traditional vows are timeless and true. There is nothing wrong with using classic wedding vows to express your love for your partner.
Following is a template that contains some short traditional wedding vows.
Funny Surprise Wedding Vows
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Who says wedding vows how to be serious? You can incorporate humor to your vows if you and your partner are both okay with it. Funny surprise wedding vows will make your day even more memorable. Discuss any personal stories you might wish to share with the beforehand so as not to embarrass them. But by all means, go ahead and make your partner (and your guests) laugh!
Here are some funny non-traditional wedding ceremony samples for your inspiration!
I promise not to hog the remote control or force you to watch chick flicks, unless I then agree to watch an action movie in exchange.
I promise to put the toilet seat down, listen to gossip about the neighbors and not to ignore you when the (insert favorite sports teams) are playing.
I promise not to hide when your parents come over. I vow not to steal the covers at night and not to turn the heat up too high.
Wedding Vows For A Long-Term Relationship
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If you have been dating for years and finally decided to tie the knot, you might not want to go with the traditional wedding vows. Or perhaps it’s your second marriage, and you want to use something unique and special for this marriage so as not to round either one of you your previous relationships.
Are you renewing your vows? Do you want to use something different for this special occasion? Click here for a simple vow renewal ceremony script.
Or do you just want your vows to be unique, so they don’t sound cheesy? Everyone wants their vows to be special, so don’t be afraid to think outside the box and be creative!
Following are some examples of wedding vows for a long-term relationship.
We have been together through thick and thin. We started dating in high school, stayed together while we both attended separate colleges and then spend a year pursuing our careers. Now, we are finally joining our lives together to live out everything we have planned for years. It was worth the wait, because we are going to have the perfect marriage and spend the rest of our days together as husband and wife.
Today, on our 25th wedding anniversary, I stand before the woman I have loved more than a quarter of a century. Even though we had some rough times, I would do it all over again. I love you more with every day and I want to spend the next 25 years of my life making you happy.
Today marks 50 years since we first said “I do.” We built a home together, raised our children and watched them raise theirs. We laughed, we cried, and we survived many hurdles together as a couple. As I look into your eyes, I still see the young man who was scared to ask me to the movies. I am so glad I said yes then and I will continue to say yes for the rest of our lives!
We hope that you have found some inspiration and guidance on with our advice on how to write wedding vows. Remember, these are your wedding vows so don’t let anyone else influence you. Speak from the heart and you will be fine!