The wedding is complete and everyone is still raving over your delicious food, a stunning gown, and beautiful ceremony. Now the much-anticipated wedding night has arrived. Most couples have indulged in doing the deed before the big day, so being together the first time as husband and wife can be wonderfully intimate and comfortable. However, despite your expectations, things may not go quite the way you planned on your wedding night.
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What can you expect? Here are some things to think about when it comes to Wedding night truths.
Your Dress Maybe Beautiful, But…
Your gorgeous gown stole the show and looked fabulous on you, but now that you want to take it off, it is stealing the romance. Before the wedding night, there was always someone assisting you who knew what they were doing. Take a deep breath and ask your hubby for help. If he struggles too, at least you can laugh about it together. Be patient with yourselves; you’re probably both tired. There’s no pressure to consummate your marriage tonight.
If you’re too exhausted, don’t worry. There are many more nights for romance. Enjoy cuddling and getting some well-deserved rest. You’re officially honeymooning, and the romance can resume in the morning.
Practice getting out of your dress alone during your fitting. Ask the attendant to show you how to do it unassisted and then try it yourself.
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Your Bridal Lingerie May be Gorgeous, But…
You might be too tired to deal with your fancy suspender belt, plunge bra, and furry heels. Maybe your husband is a bit tipsy, too tired to notice your sexy nighty, or even just passes out. Save these romantic, cumbersome articles for your honeymoon when you’re both ready for more intimacy. Tonight can be a cozy intermission. You’ve had a long day, and your wedding responsibilities are finally over. Instead of feeling disappointed, take the lingerie on your honeymoon and wear it then. He’ll appreciate it more in a relaxed atmosphere.
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You Manage to Consummate Your Marriage, But…
After a night of celebration and champagne, it’s normal for your wedding night romance to feel a bit fuzzy. With all the stress, sleepless nights, and excitement leading up to the big day, don’t worry if you don’t remember every detail. Your journey together is just beginning, and there will be plenty of opportunities to rekindle the flame. Don’t be too hard on yourselves—it’s more common than you might think.
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You Didn’t Quite Make it to the Sex Part, But…
A recent survey of newlyweds revealed that about half didn’t consummate their marriage on their wedding night. The notion that couples invariably have sex on their wedding night is a myth.
Planning a wedding can feel like running a marathon. All the effort from the proposal to the aisle can lead to a wedding night of exhaustion and sleep. There’s no shame in this; it’s a common experience that many married couples share.
Sex is an exciting part of marriage, but skipping it on your wedding night shows your bond goes beyond physical attraction. The intimacy of falling asleep and waking up together can lead to a passion-filled morning and honeymoon. Don’t stress about expectations—the spark is still there!
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You Made it to the Sex Part, But…
Despite the hype, wedding night sex probably won’t be the best sex you’ve ever had. The stress and intensity of the day can affect the experience, making it exhausting and mechanical rather than magical and romantic. Don’t pressure yourselves; too much expectation can lead to disappointment.
Remember, there’s plenty of time to make up for any letdowns. Restore your energy and confidence, and talk to your partner about what didn’t work. Have fun experimenting with different positions and connecting without forcing perfection. Like finding the right wedding gown, discovering what works best for you both may take time, but it will be worth it.
Questions to Discuss with Each Other Before Your Wedding Night
- What are your expectations for our wedding night?
Understanding each other’s expectations can help avoid misunderstandings and ensure both partners feel comfortable and aligned. Discussing expectations openly helps set a realistic and shared vision for the evening.
- How do you feel about intimacy and our first night together?
This question opens up a dialogue about any anxieties or concerns either partner might have. It allows for honest communication and support, ensuring both partners feel safe and understood.
- Do you have any preferences or dislikes when it comes to intimacy?
Knowing each other’s likes and dislikes can help create a more enjoyable experience for both partners. It’s important to discuss boundaries and preferences to foster mutual respect and understanding.
- What kind of wedding night attire do you feel comfortable in?
Discussing wedding night attire can help set the mood and ensure both partners feel comfortable and confident. It’s an opportunity to express personal preferences and make each other feel special.
- Are there any traditions or rituals you’d like to incorporate into our wedding night?
This question helps both partners understand what is important to each other and allows them to incorporate meaningful traditions or rituals. It can make the night more personal and memorable.
By asking these questions, couples can ensure they are on the same page, addressing any concerns or preferences beforehand, and creating a more comfortable and enjoyable experience for their wedding night.
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Wedding Night Tips
Make plans but remain flexible and forgiving. You can have rose petals and champagne waiting by your bedside with chocolates stowed in the suite refrigerator just in case. If you find yourselves exhausted or uninterested in any of the planned goodies, skip them. Keeping the petals beside the bed instead of all over the bed may make them useful on your honeymoon instead. Set the scene with aromatic stimulation and music if that is what you like. You have a lifetime of planning so get used to creating a sexy scene. Treat yourselves like celebrities and stock your room with all the goodies you both enjoy. Give yourselves options and don’t feel like you must use everything on that first night. Pace yourselves.
Alternative Wedding Night Plans
Instead of expecting sex, plan to eat cake. Feeding each other may just turn you on anyway. Plan to relax and recap on some of the best moments you have had together. Sleep. Maybe you want to meet family or friends in the morning for brunch or you will be dashing off for a flight. Rest can be a happy alternative if you can communicate with each other so neither of you is left out in the cold. If you find yourself wide awake while your groom is sound asleep, curl up next to him and recap with a scrapbook or pictures from your big day if you have some. Make yourself a nightcap to put yourself to sleep or get a massage or room service if the night is still young.
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