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How To Choose Wedding Roles To Help Make Your Wedding Less Stressful


When it comes to planning your wedding, there is a lot to keep in mind. From composing a guest list to organizing your wedding party, there are so many important details and wedding roles to remember. And just who plans for the wedding and who pays the wedding, you might be wondering?

The Main Roles At The Wedding (Infographic)

Who Takes The Main Wedding Roles

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Of course, as the bride, you have already been planning this since you were a little girl. On the other hand, the groom might have no idea as to how do weddings work. However, he should share a role in planning the wedding. And it’s likely that you both will be fussy about it, so you’d better find out how to plan a wedding and stay calm.

Wedding Roles For Bride And Groom

  • Choose date and venue
  • Select invitations
  • Meet with the wedding officiant
  • Choose florist, caterer, photographer, DJ, etc.
  • Set a wedding budget
  • Compose wedding vows
  • Shop for wedding rings
  • Write thank-you notes

Bride’s Roles

  • Choose maid/matron of honor, bridesmaids, and flower girls
  • Pans and hosts luncheon for the above
  • Purchases thank-you gifts for her attendants
  • Buys a wedding gift for the groom
  • Shops for her bridal gown and accessories

Groom’s Roles

  • Chooses best man, groomsmen, and ring bearer
  • Pays the officiant
  • Secures marriage license
  • Reserves a block of hotel rooms for guests from out-of-town
  • Buys a wedding gift for the bride
  • Buys gifts for groomsmen
  • Writes his speech for the reception

Wedding Party Roles

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Here you also have a handy wedding party list of roles for the bridal party:

 Maid Or Matron Of Honor

  • The maid/matron of honor has one of the most important roles in a wedding as she is basically the bride’s right hand when it comes to planning.
  • Helps choose the bridesmaids dresses
  • Organizes bridal shower and bachelorette parties
  • Help keep the bride calm
  • Assists the bride in dressing on her wedding day
  • Assists the bride with her veil, train, etc. during the wedding, pictures, reception, etc.
  • Holds bridal bouquet during the ceremony
  • Writes and delivers the maid-of-honor speech at the reception
  • Signs marriage license as the bride’s witness
  • Helps the bride change before leaving for the honeymoon
  • Cares for bridal gown, accessories, and bouquet until bride returns
  • Help address invitations, make favors and organize gifts

Bridesmaids Duties

  • Assist in making the wedding favors
  • Help choose bridesmaids dresses/accessories
  • Assist the bride during the reception
  • Help the bridesmaid plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party
  • Keep the dance party going at the reception
  • Help address the invitations
  • Assist the bride with any other duties

Best Man Duties

  • Plan and host the bachelor party
  • Arranges post-wedding transportation for the bride and groom
  • Writes and delivers Best Man Speech
  • Supervises the groomsmen/Jr groomsmen
  • Makes sure the groom gets to the wedding venue on time
  • Confirms travel itinerary/reservations for the honeymoon
  • Takes care of the bride’s ring during the wedding
  • Rents the groomsmen’s attire and returns it the day after the wedding
  • Signs the marriage certificate as a witness

Groomsmen Responsibilities

  • Help the best man plan the bachelor party
  • Assist and seat the guests at the wedding
  • Offer to help with any errands
  • Act as co-hosts at the reception

Related post: 11 Tips On How To Plan A Bachelor Party In 2019

Junior Bridesmaids And Groomsmen

  • Attend any age-appropriate pre-wedding events (this does not include the bachelor/bachelor parties)
  • Dress in age-appropriate wedding attire that matches the wedding party
  • Assist with any age-appropriate duties

Flower Girl

  • Attends rehearsal dinner/wedding reception with her parents
  • Dresses in age-appropriate attire the day of the wedding that coordinates with the wedding party
  • Walks in front of the bride as she walks down the aisle. She may scatter flowers or carry a basketful of flowers

Ring Bearer

  • Attends rehearsal dinner/wedding reception with his parents
  • Dresses in age-appropriate attire the day of the wedding that coordinates with the wedding party
  • Carries the rings on a satin pillow during the wedding procession and hands them off to the best man/maid of honor
  •  If you follow this timeline, things should go smoothly with your wedding planning.

Jobs For Everyone

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— Readers

Those whom you choose to perform any religious or secular readings during your wedding ceremony and/or reception.

— Candle Lighters

In a unity candle ceremony, it is usually the parents of the bride and/or groom that light the candle.

— Gift Bearers

Those who carry any gifts or other items in religious traditions.

— Pages

Those that carry the bride’s train while she walks down the aisle. These are usually younger children, aged 6-9.

Attendant Roles

— Program Attendant

The person that hands the wedding program to the guests as they enter the venue

— Ushers

Assist the groomsmen in seating the guests

— Bubbles Or Rice Attendant

The person who is responsible for handing out the rice, bubbles, etc at the end of the wedding ceremony

— Guest Book Attendants

Those responsible to make sure that everyone signs the guest book.

— Reception Site Liaison

A person is responsible for communicating with the reception venue on the day of the wedding.

Keep this checklist in mind when it comes time to plan your wedding and you will be all set!

We hope that you have found our list of wedding roles to be helpful in planning your special day!